Real Housewife Out of Control!

I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the fact that I enjoy watching Bravo TV shows, especially the "Real Housewife" series. In this season of the "Real Housewives of New York City there is a new housewife, named Kelly Killoren Bensimon. Kelly has been described on the show as bland and boring, even though she used to be a top model and was married to the famous fashion photographer, Gilles Bensimon. Viewers have very high expectations for their housewives and do not appear impressed or interested if they are not rude, obnoxious, loud, extremely wealthy and successful, and do not frequent the top clubs in New York City. However, about four weeks ago Kelly was arrested on assault charges for punching her fiance. She was originally charged with misdemeanor third-degree assault, but her fiance does not feel that this is a fair solution. He has complained to reporters and police that she deserves much worse because, he states, "if I had done it to her, I would have been put in jail immediately … My injuries are worse than Rihanna's — and Chris Brown was charged with two felonies." I have a minor in criminal justice and inequality in charges based on gender is very common in the United States. Only recently have more women been arrested because of "mandatory minimum" sentencing laws that do not allow judges to be bias. However, most crimes do not specify mandatory minimums and women recieve lighter sentences than men. When I saw this case on the news I thought it was really sad that Kelly Bensimon will not be given the punishment that she deserves because of her female gender. I also thought it was interesting that now, because she committed a violent act, Kelly is seen by viewers as less boring and bland.

"Lost"

I recently began watching the series, "Lost," and have now finished the first season. The show is very entertaining and I find it interesting to observe the behaviors of different people while they are confined on an island. My favorite character in the show is Katie. Katie seems very sweet, caring, and compassionate, but soon we learn that she is a felon that is "on the run" for murder. Everyone on the show appears shocked to hear about Katie's past because she appears so kind and innocent. However, Katie is actually very resilient, tough, and courageous (which are typically not adjectives used to describe females). She always joins the men when they go on a mission in the woods and insists that she be treated equally and allowed to participate in "male" activities, such as boar hunting or searching for explosives. A few times during the show, Jack, another main character, tells Katie that she cannot join the men because it is unsafe (the audience assumes this is because she is a woman)- of course, she does not listen. During the end of the season, four people out of the group on the island go into the woods to search for dynamite or other explosives. They find the highly dangerous dynamite and must decide who should carry it back to their "camp." Katie eagerly agrees to carry it in her bag and is met with criticism by Jack, who eventually agrees to let her carry the explosives, but actually puts them in his bag instead of hers. Despite a few variances, Katie is treated as an equal with the men and boldly sacrifices herself to help the group. I love seeing a female character that is so courageous and accepted among others and appreciate this about the character of Katie in "Lost."

"Millionaire Matchmaker"

The other day I was flipping through the channels on TV and decided to check out "Millionaire Matchmaker" on Bravo. In the show, a matchmaker has men that are millionaires as her clients who pay to be set up on dates with beautiful women. I have nothing against reality dating shows and trying to find love on TV, but the entire concept of this show is disgusting. The men on the show seem perfectly content with dating a woman that obviously only wants them for their money. During the particular episode that I was watching, there were two very old men that only liked to date younger women. One of the men was in his late forties and he had met his previous girlfriend when she was only 18! The matchmaker on the show could not convince the men to date older women, so she set up a one sided mirror so that the men could see the young women and approve of them based on their looks. It was shocking to me that the men had complete control of the situation, as the women could not see them at all. They were able to choose which women they found attractive and decide to go on dates with them. I was appalled by this episode and found the way that the (ugly) men critiqued (beautiful) women that were not "perfect enough" for them to be absolutely ridiculous. As the article, "Beauty and the Patriarchal Beast" explained, television is increasingly casting shows and sitcoms with beautiful women dating ugly men that have complete power and control.

Real "Housewives"?

I really enjoy watching the "Real Housewives" series on Bravo, which includes groups of women from New York, Orange County, and Atlanta, that are very wealthy. The show follows the women throughout their day and viewers get a glimpse of what it would be like to live such a lavish lifestyle. Many of the women and their families own numerous houses, vacation houses, or nice boats. However since I began watching the series, I have been confused out the name, which does not represent the women at all. First of all, this is not the life of a "real" or normal housewife in America. Second, none of the women are actually fit the definition of a "housewife" as defined by dictionary.com as "a married woman who manages her own household, esp. as her principal occupation." Most of the women in the house do manage their own homes well and their husbands are rarely seen, but they have very successful jobs away from the home. Vikki, an Orange County housewife, is the best example of this because she is a realtor for very expensive homes and is ALWAYS working. When "the girls" go out for the weekend, Vikki is notorious for bringing her lap top and typing away the whole time. She defends herself by saying that she has extra time and does not want it to go to waste. The women all seem very independent and in control of their homes and jobs.
I thought that this was worth mentioning because, to me, the word "housewife" has a bad connotation and describes a woman whose only place is in the home- to cook, clean, and relax when those are completed. The women on the "real housewives" are not lazy and do not only reside in their homes. This reminded me of the article we read in class titled, "Beauty and the Patriarchal Beast," which sends a message to readers that producers of television shows are not as innocent as they may seem because they have seemingly successful women that always submit to their husbands in the end. In this case, the women are submitting to the production series by being given the label "housewives."